Don’t Compare Yourself to Others

compareI often hear statements such as:

  • By this age, I should have accomplished more
  • Other people earn so much more than I do
  • I’m smart, so I should be able to earn more

Comparing yourself to others in any way is a go-nowhere activity that always leads to dissatisfaction and feelings of lack. In order to duplicate the accomplishments of others, you would have to be them.

Highly successful people are usually ambitious, focused, determined, and disciplined and have developed specific skill sets that allow them to excel in their chosen field. Their accomplishments reflect their individual life expression and no one else’s.

You Only See The End Result

When viewing another’s accomplishments, you can rarely see the back story which includes all the inner turmoil and creative pains that it took to reach a certain goal. The results may look, to you, as if reaching the goal was easy, when in fact there are usually trade-offs like having less time for recreation when one is reaching for a high level of success.

So when looking at the accomplishments of others, you need to ask yourself, “Am I willing to put in the kind of time and effort that it takes to excel?”

In the book The Outliers, Malcolm Gladwell discusses the ingredients for success. He repeatedly mentions the “10,000-Hour Rule,” which states that the key to success is a matter of practicing a specific skill for at least 10,000 hours. Are you willing to wait until you have done something repeatedly for 10,000 hours in order to be considered a success in your field?

Even more than the willingness to stick with something for that long, is the need to have the faith that by investing so much time in pursuit of a goal that you will achieve success, which is never guaranteed.

The Bottom Line

The bottom line is that you are who you are and you occupy a unique place in the total scheme of things. By focusing on what you want to do and doing it over and over again in a focused way, you will accomplish something unique to you.

This doesn’t mean that you’ll be as rich as Bill Gates or as famous as Oprah Winfrey, but it does mean that you will be an expert at something. With the proper marketing, you can turn that into success on a worldwide level – if that’s what you want, and if you are willing to stick with it for an extended period of time.

When you find yourself comparing yourself to others, move the focus back to you and what you have accomplished in your life. Instead of thinking about what you haven’t done, start appreciating who you are and what you have contributed — even in the smallest way — to the world around you.